Can Divorce Mediation Save A Marriage?
Mediation, often seen as the bridge between staying together and filing for divorce, offers couples a unique platform to discuss their issues openly and honestly. As Ireland’s divorce rates hover around 13% for married couples, as reported in 2021, many are asking: can divorce mediation actually save a marriage? Let’s dive deeper into this question.
Understanding Divorce Mediation
Before we delve into its potential impact on marriages, let’s clarify what divorce mediation entails. Mediation is a process where a neutral third party, the Mediator (like myself, Rachael McDaid), facilitates a conversation between the two spouses to arrive at a mutual understanding or agreement, without taking sides.
How Mediation Can Prevent Divorce
Fosters Open Communication:
Many couples cite a lack of communication as a core issue. Mediation provides a safe environment to voice concerns and grievances.
Identifies Underlying Issues:
Behind every argument, there’s a deeper issue. Mediation helps couples identify these root causes, from financial pressures to differing parenting styles.
Offers Neutral Guidance:
As a Mediator, I don’t provide solutions but I guide couples to find solutions themselves. This empowerment often rekindles mutual respect.
Cost-effective:
In Ireland, the average cost of divorce proceedings can range from €15,000.00 to €20,000.00, not considering the emotional cost. Mediation in contrast is generally less expensive and less confrontational.
Statistics Speak
In a study from the International Journal of Law, Policy and the Family, about 40-60% of couples who participated in mediation felt positively about their relationship post-mediation. While mediation is primarily for couples on the brink of divorce, it’s clear that the process can sometimes mend fences.
Empathy is Key
In every mediation session, I’ve observed that when couples approach issues with empathy, the outcome is profoundly different. Recognising the pain or the viewpoint of the other often leads to breakthroughs.
Final Thoughts
While divorce mediation is designed to assist couples in parting amicably, it can occasionally lead to reconciliation. The process uncovers hidden resentments, fosters open communication, and in some cases, rekindles the bond. If you and your partner are considering divorce but believe there might be a glimmer of hope, mediation might be the path to rediscover your love.
For couples in Ireland considering mediation, reach out to me, Rachael McDaid. Let’s navigate the crossroads of your relationship together.
